I’m going out on a limb to get real with you and challenge one of the biggest myths of personal growth for the modern woman: the narrative that you need to heal yourself.
You know the story… before you can realize your greatness you need to:
Heal your throat chakra so your expression isn’t blocked.
Heal your childhood wounds…
Sarah was in the middle of a divorce when she began working with me.
When she first reached out to me, she wasn’t even sure what exactly she wanted to work on together. She just knew that she needed some extra support and guidance. She was in what she described as “a period of general uncertainty.”
Read MoreDo you have somewhere in life where you feel like you’re not measuring up? Where you’re being hard on yourself? Feeling bad about something that happened? Or feel like you’re failing in some area?
Perhaps you’ve got a juicy goal in mind, but you just keep procrastinating.
Or maybe you’re holding a lot of regret or self-criticism about something you did (or didn’t do) in the past.
Let’s talk about the truth behind these emotions.
What’s really going on when we are feeling self-critical, experiencing shame or regret, or holding ourselves to impossibly high standards and then being hard on ourselves when we don’t measure up?
Read MoreI often hear from women “I’m too much in my head.” I’m sure you can relate! Our modern lives are a recipe for this.
Being in your mind is great when you need to get shit done, but when we spend too much time there, as nearly ALL of us do these days, things start to feel a little floaty. Maybe you’ve noticed feeling:
numb
lacking direction or purpose
longing for something but not sure what……..
If your experience is anything like mine, pleasure is definitely not at the front of your mind. If you’re like me, you’ve been busy digesting the news, keeping your family safe, and trying to stay sane amidst juggling different work schedules and environments, kids and partner, homeschooling, and whether there will be toilet paper available next week.
Maybe you’ve lost the plot on pleasure during this time. Or maybe you’re having plenty of it (and maybe even feeling guilty about it). I’ve certainly been in both those places at points during this lockdown!
Either way, let’s talk about why you might want to focus on pleasure right now and how you can dance with it in the midst of chaos and uncertainty.
Read MoreWe’re all embodied, of course… we all inhabit a body. It’s not possible to be completely disembodied, just like it’s not possible to be perfectly embodied all of the time. We’re all moving in and out of embodied states as we go through life.
But our modern life predisposes us to disembodiment as a default.
We’re taught that logic and the mind are supreme.
Especially as women, we are taught that our bodies are dangerous, chaotic, and not to be trusted, so why would we go deeper into them?
If you’re wondering if you might be living disembodied, here are 5 common signs, as well as what embodied living looks like!
Read MoreI’ve spoken with several people recently about what to do with all the heavy emotions that are coming up so regularly for many of us during this global lockdown. Often we don’t want to feel that way and we might avoid the feelings by stuffing them down or ignoring them. One friend shared such a simple and beautiful insight.
She said, “when I try to avoid feeling it, that just seems to prolong it.”
This is such a powerful understanding based on her own experience. And it’s also quite true from a somatic point of view: the body’s sensate experience doesn’t just go away if we turn our attention away from it. It stays frozen in the body, trapped in the tissues.
Read MoreBy the time the afternoon rolled around, I was all over the place. Inside me felt chaotic. I had pulled out the laundry, but didn’t start it. The bin sat there in the hallway reminding me that I did not have it together. I walked past it again on the way to the cabinet for another handful of m&m’s, because that was totally helping things.
The children felt incessant, and they weren’t even misbehaving. Their hugs and their knock knock jokes and their messes felt like nails on a chalkboard. I started at my laptop on the counter, knowing I should try to be productive. It just wasn’t happening. Maybe you can relate?
There is no right or wrong way to feel right now.
You might be feeling the bliss of extra time with your children, or irritation with their relentless needs.
You might be feeling gratitude that you still have a job, and intense frustration …
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